Anger Management - a Human’s Kryptonite - Part 1

Humans have an innate ability to mentally adapt to life. All living creatures evolve and are conditioned to their environment. Take fish for example, if you put fish into a tank, they will if required, restrict how much they grow according to the size of the fish and how many other fish are in the tank. Other living creatures grow bigger claws to help them climb away from predators, longer tales for greater balance and in drought stricken areas learn how to live on less water and so on. Humans have evolved our minds so we can out smart the other creatures and as a result this has allowed us to grow and develop in many ways to create amazing things. The industrial revolution, aeroplanes and now the internet and technology have all been created out of our advanced minds. I believe our minds of course are still evolving and I think that now the evolution is around stainable way of being, living and interacting with our world.

Our life Styles over what I would say the last 25-30 years have become increasingly bombarded with extra external technology. Mobile phones, email, media, mobile media. I do believe all these things have their place, and are incredibly useful. I use a lot of these resources for my benefit and for the benefit of my Life Coaching clients. Equally I Think quietness, alone time and peace has as much value if not more that technology. I am finding more and more that people are or want to unplug from technology and recharge themselves with quietness, alone time and peace.

The media does a great job of highlighting the destruction humans anger can cause. I know that a lot of that anger comes from a reduced ability to process emotions. A part of coaching people on life balance is a little bit less time with technology and a little bit more time with self and family.

Anger does incredible things to the human body. Think of a capsicum that is slowly rotting from the inside out, the rotting process starts as soon as that capsicum is harvested. Once it is harvested it is disconnected from its living engery source and begins to rot. For the first few days it doesn’t appear to be rotting then you will grab the capsicum in a couple of weeks and as you pick it up it will collapse in your hands and all the mouldy, furry and yuck bits will hit the floor.

If having anger in your life rots you from the inside out, what can you do about it? Anger as you know is a feeling, I believe that all feelings have a message for you and once they have communicated that message the feeling is released because there is no longer a reason for it to be there. If that is true then how do you hear the feelings message? The way I do this is to feel the feeling and what I mean when I say that, it is to embrace the feeling, immerse my self in the feeling, giving me the best chance to hear its message and release it, removing the need to feel it any more.

Lets imagine for a moment there was a woman named Sue and she managed a restaurant and lets also say the there was an upset customer called Ray. Ray was angry because he felt like his meal took to long to come out and that it wasn’t hot enough when he finally received it. Ray wanted to tell Sue because he thought that other people shouldn’t have to experience what he had experienced. Sue wasn’t interested in hearing what Ray had to say because she didn’t care, that angered Ray further because he didn’t want a free meal or even a discount he was wanting to help Sue improve the restaurant for everyone benefit. Ray went away angry and vowed to never return and of course when ever that restaurant came up in conversation he told his story putting more people off going there. If Sue had of had a different perceptive on the ordeal she might of said “what seems to be the problem sir?” Then Ray could have expressed his feeling and Sue might have said something like “thanks for that information, I’ll look into it.” The two reactions by Sue as I see it bring two very different results. The reaction of ignoring Ray only builds more anger and doesn’t allow the real problem to be address and as a result the slow service continues and the breeds more upset customers. If Sue embraced Ray’s anger and his message then the initial pain of dealing with the anger quickly turns into an opportunity to grow and learn.

Life Coaching is a resource that can teach you the tools to cope with the initial pain of embracing your anger, guilt, frustration, fear ...... giving you the skills to embrace your negative feeling and to hear their message and even more than that help you understand the message giving you the ability to learn, grow and release the emotion.
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