Anger Management - Kryptonite to good mate Part 2

In part 1 of Anger Management article I spoke from my Life Coaching perspective on immersing yourself in your feelings, empowering you to hear and understand their message then release the feelings. This is focused around “negative” feelings. Negative not being a bad thing, simply less enjoyable. So often we judge our feelings to be good or bad, as a result we then want to avoid the bad feeling because we have been conditioned to believe that bad is a thing to stay away from and then we suppress the “negative bad” feeling. Doing this is like tiring to hold a beach ball under water. If you get on top of it and put enough effort in, you can get the ball under water and you might even be able to hold it down for a while. It’s inevitable that the ball at some point will pop up. It might pop up when you get low on energy and can no longer hold it down or maybe when you get distracted by something and lose concentration. Rather if you embrace the ball for what it is you then could be free to play with it or even deflate and store it for another time.

A client of mind who I Life Coach in Cronulla one day articulated to me in the most profound and wonderful way how she embraces anger. She was telling me how she handles it when anger visits her.

I said; “how do mean?”

She said; “well when anger comes to visit I shut myself off to the world, because I don’t want others to come in contact with anger when he’s around. I feel that anger is here to see me and not others, and it is my role to hang with anger and see what he has to say”

“Ok, how do you hang with anger” I asked

“I go running, surfing, what ever I can to keep me and anger busy and tire us out by the end of the day, so I can sleep at the end of the day” She replied.

“Ok, what happens next?” I asked

“By the 4th or 5th day I have a dream and I understand what anger wanted to tell me and when I wake up I think about the dream a bit more understating its meaning and anger is gone.” She replied.

As we continued our Life Coaching session we began to talk about how she could this same process with other negative emotions. The method that this client used works for her. There are a lot of different methods to out work this process. Let me explain more about the process giving you more knowledge to find what will work for you, whether it is Life Coaching, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), Time Line therapy or something else.

When a negative emotion/s comes to visit there is quite often is a whirl wind of like emotions that come with it. Anger often carries with it frustration, fear and anxiety. There is an energetic charge around all these emotions. Imagine a family member that you have had a couple of arguments with and as a result you no longer get on with them to well. Then you find out that they are coming to visit. And you feel........ That’s the charge. In this process my client released the charge by a large quantity of physical activity then when the charge was gone she was able to hear then understand the message the emotion wanted to communicate.

To summarise where we are up to;-

• The emotion comes to visit with the charge
• You release the charge
• Hear the message
• Understand the message
  

Growth and are able to experience positive emotions like happiness and joy more often

With the many different people I Life Coach in Sydney one common thing I have noticed that all my clients and myself benefit from is being good or even great at the skill of communicating to your emotions, negative or positive. Like any other skill this skill can be learn practiced and perfected. Were ever you are at with the skill of communicating to your emotions, is perfect for you right now and I encourage you wether through the assistants of Life Coaching or other methods, learn, grow and practice the skill for your benefit and the benefit of those around you.

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