1 of 5 Mind Development - Who created what’s in your head?

Mind Development is the changing of the brain through every day life. Whether expanding or contracting, the brain is always changing. This is also referred to as Nero - plasticity. I am reading a great book at the moment called “The Brain That Changes Itself”. This book discusses how the brain always wants to become more effective even in the simplest tasks that you and I wouldn’t normally think of consciously. It was previously thought that the brain you’re born with is the brain you die with. So if your I.Q. was 127 then it would always be 127. That is a really broad of putting it, giving you a general understanding of what I mean. Now in later decades, it has been found that the brain is much more like a muscle. You can grow it, develop it and make it stronger regardless of what age you are.

I believe that mind development is the gateway to having an amazing life. What I mean is, all the parts of our life are filtered and processed by our brains. Depending on how well developed our minds are, will determine the quality of our lives. If I go to a friend’s place for a bbq (yes I am Australian so I do this a lot), then at the end of the bbq I will say to myself, “generally on a subconscious level, I enjoyed that because I like hanging out with friends and having a good beer”. Because I have said that to myself my brain will release chemicals and endorphins into my body as a result of telling myself I had a good time.
Whether in Life Coaching, counselling or other therapies, this is often called self talk. This self talk serves the purpose of proving that the beliefs we have about the world are true.

Let’s play with this idea.....

Belief = If I go to church on Sundays I am a good person
Action = Go to church
Self talk = I am a good person
Result of the self talk = Feel good because now you are a good person after going to church on Sunday

I find this a fascinating pattern. The question I pose to you is where did the belief come from in the first place? Who said that “if you go to church on Sundays you’re a good person?”

If that is true, does that mean that all people who don’t go to church are bad people?? Its no difference to me whether you choose to attend a church of any kind, on any day or not. I am questioning who developed your mind with these beliefs? It is my understanding through my life experience and training as a Life Coach that all beliefs like these are created for us by other people and our experiences in the beginning of our lives when we were 0-7 years of age.

A belief that was created for me as child was “I must always sit up straight at the table”, yet when I travelled to East Timor a few years ago I realised that many people there didn’t have tables.

How could this belief be true when everybody in the world doesn’t have tables? After this experience I began to realise that beliefs are created according to your upbringing within your social economic environment. This was the time when I really began to use Mind Development. If I believe in sitting up at the table and someone does not have a table and as a result they believe in sitting in a circle on the floor (which in East Timor was dirt and lot of the time) and sharing the food around the circle with friends and family, who is right? If right exists then there must be a wrong to create the balance, so that is wrong? Then I began to have, what in Life Coaching we technically called, a light bulb moment. Wink Wink

If there was no right and no wrong and there was only action and consequence, or cause and affect, then both persons’ beliefs could be true for them and give them the feelings they want. I trust you are following my thoughts.

What I am saying is, your beliefs are created from your upbringing then you act to prove your beliefs to be true, giving you the chemical response in your head to feel good. How can you determine whether your beliefs are true, keeping in mind the example above. It’s this simple... do your beliefs work for you? Are you happy sitting up straight at the table or going to church on Sunday? If not.... what if I told you that you could change your beliefs or your actions or your self talk to experience a better feeling and better results?!

My purpose for being a Life Coach is to help people feel better and experience better results.

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